I’ll admit it, I’m guilty of this all the time. I’ll walk into my room in the middle of the night and I’ll find my girlfriend on my bed with her legs spread open. She’s lying in the middle of her sheets. We’ve been together for six weeks, and there’s still nothing that I can do to make it better. She knows this, but I’m still a mess.
This happens a lot when you’re a part of a couple. The guy you’re with can be a jerk, but sometimes the jerk can’t be as rude as the guy you were with. Sometimes the jerk doesn’t even notice the jerk. Sometimes when he feels bad about something and says, “I feel like I’ve done something wrong, I shouldn’t be doing this,” he’s probably not thinking of the other guy.
I cant blame her for feeling this way, even though Ive tried to be the best boyfriend that I can be. Ive been a crappy boyfriend lately, and this is really starting to suck. No matter what I do, Im just not good anymore. The other night I saw that she was sleeping in his room. I walked into his room and made like i was going to wake her up, but she was still asleep.
I’m going to be blunt here, but I think it’s time for you to give up being a girlfriend and move on to something a little more fun. No, seriously. You can’t stay here and act as a girlfriend for longer than you have to. Just stop doing that right now.
Well, that’s what I’m saying. No matter what you do, you’re not good anymore.
This isn’t some weird thing to say, this is a fact. A person’s happiness is tied to the quality of their relationships. This is why if a relationship gets to the point where it’s toxic, the person in that relationship stops having fun. They stop having fun because they have no one to share it with, or they have no one to listen to.
This is also why people who are having a good time when they are with their significant other, and who are also enjoying themselves with friends, tend to do better in jobs and school and in their careers. Its because if you can’t find pleasure in your relationship, you have no reason to stay. If the relationship isn’t healthy, then you’re not going to be able to find pleasure in things like work, school, or even dating.
I hope you’re not thinking about the fact that the best thing in the world to do after a breakup is to stay single and enjoy yourself on your own. That is just a lie. Youre not a single person. Youre a person who has to find someone else to be around because no one else is going to be able to make you happy.
In other words, if youre dating a guy, you should still be able to do what you should be doing. If youre single, then you should be able to find someone to be around. If youre not dating a guy, you shouldn’t be able to stay on a date with one. If youre not dating someone, you should think about it.
It’s hard to believe that the best thing that happened to me is that I became a single parent. It’s also hard to believe that Ive had to figure out how to be all alone.